THIS WEBSITE IS OFFICIALLY DONE
Hey everybody,
I have no idea how the hell people are still coming here. I didn’t think this website was all that good
The “thought experiment” that JesseLovesYou.com was has now come to an end.
I’m doing all my new writing at SchoolOfPower.com, so head on over there and start on your parth to power!
-Jesse
My Thoughts on the 7-Habits Review
Here it is: another blunt post by Jesse, so strap in!
I think the author is dead-on about the entire personal development community. Most of it is designed to sell info products on infomercials to people who buy into the fantasy of making millions without having to work for it. These people don’t need personal development – they need a religion to siphon their money into. There are people out there, like me, who actually looking for real personal development, who are really trying to better themselves. Given the deluge of false PD products on the market, our only recourse is to go out and learn it the hard way. In other words, if you read books like “The 7 Habits”, and you have one lick of intelligence, you’ll quickly conclude, “I already read this book in Kindergarten, and it was called ‘The Little Engine That Could.’”
The personal development community is mostly about inculcating people into personality cults, i.e. Tony Robbins and Jack Canfield. They use age-old tactics to induce religious experiences in their followers who then go out and become preachers in the personality cult. Because they have created such an army of devout followers, there is little critical thought ever given to the truth or veracity of the claims that the leaders make. (i.e. see Cialdini’s INfluence on the power of social proof).
REAL personal development is not a profitable business. If the student of the school is actually taught how to become successful, then the master will lose the army of sheeple that he could fleece for a lifetime. The only reason Tony Robbins and canfield remain popular and have so much power is because they don’t empower their students – they disempower them. They confuse them. They addict them. They bleed them. They use every trick in the book that has been around for 1000’s of years.
Steve Pavlina is the only PD guru I’ve seen who isn’t in it for the money/fame/cult. He’s just a business guy who makes his $500 from you on the first conference, and then you leave his tutelage and go forth and become an affiliate
A Review of “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” I Found on Amazon
We live in a society that teaches us to be passive and rely on experts for our decision making. All our media is based on noninteractive mediums often supplemented by laugh tracks to tell us when we are happy and creepy music to tell us when we are scared. Fear and confusion are the tools by which people are turned into sheep with a checkbook. It begins in compulsory education systems where we are given a question and the answer and then asked the question (how many of those answers have you later found to be lies). Your thoughts are not required but your complacency is demanded. We have our issues framed in such a way that we debate only a list of sanctioned and approved alternatives with no discussion of that which has been deemed counter-revolutionary by the powers that be, and dissent will not be tolerated. Once we were told what to think, now we are simply told not to. The news comes complete with analysis of how it will impact your life so all you need to do is sit back offer blind faith in the mega-corporations that bring you the 5-oclock news and the Seven Habits of Highly Deceptive People.
The motive behind this learned helplessness is to homogenize us into targetable markets and prepare us for the sales pitch offering what we have just been told we need in order to bring fulfillment to our unsatisfying and tame lifestyles of servitude to others. The media has told us what is attractive, what is just and what the good-life is, which avails a new market of telling us how to cope with the frustration of having our thoughts dictated by external profit seekers…Enter the Oprah-Covey-Dr. Phill solution. Tell me I have problems, tell me what they are, tell me how to fix them and I will pretend I believe you care about me more than another ivory back-scratcher you can spend my 3 easy payments on.
We spend millions on infomercial products telling us how to increase our IQ 30 points, reduce cellulite, and make a fortune in real-estate, all by devoting ten minutes a week and sending our check or money order to address on the screen without ever leaving the sofa.
As we watch talk shows bring in the so called `specialists’, we remove ourselves from real problems that cause us real stress and focus on masters of rhetoric peddling easy answers to indirect questions. Do we need to follow the `correct map’, or do we need involve ourselves in direct action and reaction to events and circumstances of our life as is best judged by our own undiluted thoughts. As any good marketing class will teach you, repetition creates truth. The incessant references to ambiguous entities of inner power and paradigm maps along with blurred calls to action involving centering one’s self and shifting paradigms offer little certainty when action is called for in our lives.
Eventually a person gets tired of hearing all the ways we are told how to cope and that it’s gonna be alright and, only then, real change can happen. It does not require shifting a paradigm map but it might require unleashing the harness we are bound by and going down to city hall. It may require you to develop distrust of the mainstream mass media and question the motives behind those trying to influence you. You might need to make tangible changes to your lifestyle and remove yourself from situations where you are powerless, you might need to question your involvement in systems of exploitation, and you may need to be much less tame.
The most important thing is to believe change in your life will come from yourself and not the expert. The painful truth is that the expert doesn’t care about you or your unsatisfying life. They have no idea how to solve your problems and no motivation to do so, particularly when they have a new self help cook-book coming out next spring and have already added your name to their marketing list.
If your life needs change, you need to change it yourself. You are not helpless, and you have everything you need to do it already. If it is self-help you seek, Covey-help will get you nowhere. Everyone has an agenda and most of them need your credit card number. It can be dangerous to believe that this rhetoric will bring you more than the temporary illusion that you have taken control of your life when all you have done is tightened the shackles that bind you the source of dissatisfaction you sought to free yourself from.
—- Post comments if you feel so-moved. I will post my response in a few days.
How To Convince The World You Are Enlightened
I started a thread on the Steve Pavlina forums called “Test The Enlightened One.” In the beginning, I claim, “I am enlightened. Ask me any question you want and I’ll answer it using my powers of enlightenment.” My goal for the first few pages is to put forth my most genuine effort to convince other people I am enlightened. (The previous sentence in no way implies that I am not actually enlightened). Here is what I learned from peoples’ responses:
- NEVER, EVER claim you are enlightened. Apparently “everybody knows” that enlightened people don’t claim to be enlightened. I find this kind of hilarious, because it’s demonstrative of the gap between the enlightened and the people following the enlightened – that is to say, you want OTHERS claiming you are enlightened, because having to claim it yourself automatically invalidates the claim. An enlightened person quickly realizes this, and if they want lots and lots of people to worship/follow them, they must never appear too “egotistical” or “arrogant” because enlightened people are supposedly above this.
- NEVER display emotion. For some reason, enlightened people should never experience or display emotion. Remember: everybody knows that enlightened people are all pacifists whose minds have left the physical world and are floating in an astral plane. If somebody is doing something evil or wrong, you respond with questions or vague statements.
- MOSTLY ask questions. Questions force other peoples’ minds on the defense and short-circuit the ability for them to ask their own questions. You don’t want people questioning you – you want peoples’ logical minds shutting down so they have religious experiences and subsequently follow you.
- ONLY speak in nonsense. When people really push you to commit to some kind of position, it needs to be mostly about the future or some “spiritual realm” or some such. You’re looking to say things that conform to peoples’ expectations about what an enlightened person would think. It helps if you read a lot of nonsensical spiritual literature. My guess is that Buddhism, Hinduism, and New-Agism would attract the greatest number of followers. (I could develop this further if readers are interested).
- NEVER state facts. Remember, you’re enlightened, not a scientist. If you state facts, you’ll eventually be required to defend the system that derived those facts. Always present things that come from your invisible 3rd eye, not your 2 real eyes.
Enlightenment Is A Belief
All human beliefs are relative to the context in which they were created. The reason why people get into such fits over forum threads like this is because they don’t understand the arbitrariness of their belief system. In the thread, I am doing 2 things: 1) I’m sharing what I believe to actually be “truth” about things we currently have difficulty understanding. 2) I’m presenting those “truths” in a way that conforms to other peoples’ concept of enlightenment. The writing I do on this blog is “non-conformist”, which means I just present things bluntly. I don’t wrap it up all nice and pretty so that people are receptive to it. The less receptive people are to my presentation of information on this blog, the more I learn about what not to do when I actually go to make IRL money. This blog is nothing but a game designed to help me prepare for my “real” pursuits, which are gaining as much money and power as I possibly can so I no longer experience perpetual misery.
How to Profit From Enlightenment
- Start a blog and podcast, and make an Ebook to sell. I would charge $100 or so. I would publish this blog using a pseudonym like “Rami Shek” or something that sounds Buddhist/Hindu, with a flair of futurism to it.
- Do everything I mention above without breaking character, in order to create a world-wide phenomenon out of it.
- Grow a beard and take a public vow of poverty. I would regularly post pictures of myself doing “spiritual” things. I would avoid video until I got really good at convincing people I’m enlightened.
- Buy gold with all of the money that came from the sales of my ebook. I would bury my gold somewhere safe.
- If people ever found out I was “faking it”, I would eventually disappear and enjoy my fortune.
Conclusion
If you derive pleasure or value from having people worship you as “enlightened”, employ the above steps. If you want the world to believe it, you need to recruit an army of devout followers (approx. 10,000) and have them spread your influence like gospel. Just make sure you never break character
I’ve Expanded My Consciousness To A Comfortable Stopping Place
I’ve been aware of the limited nature of my awareness from a very young age. When I was 3 years old, I got in trouble with the other kids for blinking my eyes really fast and causing “floaters” to appear in my visual field. I was curious about the inner workings of my nervous system, but the people in my external reality just wanted me to conform to their wishes for me to sit still, do what they told me, and not ask too many questions. But I defied this general request, and here I am, a rapidly-expanding awareness.
Here is a brief list of the things that can help a person’s mind expand:
- Drugs

- Steve Pavlina (i.e. developing intuition)
- Adversity, struggle, and difficulty
- Experience solving lots of different problems
- Reading lots of diverse material, to understand others’ thought processes
- More drugs
- Learning about how the mind works (i.e. “meta cognition”)
- Improving one’s mental and physical health
The nature of my being is qualitatively different from the way it was 2 years ago. I used to be stuck in the narrow “work hard, get a job” mentality. I was on a very narrow and rigid path through life and I didn’t like it that much. My health was terrible and I was miserable, but I figured that was how life was supposed to be, so I just gave up and started distracting myself.
I started searching for answers online about 2 years ago and BAM! I realized that the problems I was experiencing were the result of cultural programming that functioned much like a “cult” to keep me narrowly focused on my work, to keep me producing and consuming like a drone.
My attempts to escape this rigid thinking were quite hap-hazard. But as I began improving my health, I began more and more receptive to accurate information. I allowed my mind to expand to a level “beyond the rat race.” The book that flipped the biggest switch for me was Alvin Toffler’s 3rd Wave. I began to truly understand this hidden enemy that was pulling levers from behind the unseen curtain. The nemesis was “the global economy”, a gigantic industrial machine that swallows people up and turns them into drones. Once I realized that’s how the world actually worked, then the rest is JesseLovesYou.com history.
Anyway, our minds are born with the potential to accomplish unbelievable things. We can invent advanced technology, live in extremely harsh conditions when our bodies would normally just give up (Africans and concentration camp victims prove that people with a will to live can survive as walking skeletons). I mean, our capacity for intellectual feats is absolutely staggering. If you saw the world through my mind, you’d understand why I rant and rave so much about how shitty the world is. The powers that exist in the world – the ones controlling the industrial machinery – do not want a mass awakening, for today’s wage slave system is founded on mass ignorance.
I think I’ve expanded my mind to the point where trying to go any further right now would hinder my progress. I’ve pulled myself up by the bootstraps to the point where I feel comfortable quitting my job and never having another one.
It took me awhile to get where I am right now, but I’m completely re-designing my life right now. I’m actually creating a life right now. It’s kind of fucking unbelievable when you think about the fact that most people don’t design their life, they just live it, right? But I am figuring out all of the small details now, even before I’m mega-rich. Details like where I want to live, what kind of relationships I want to have with people, how close I am to nature, what kinds of philanthropic projects I want to focus on, and what kinds of businesses and hobbies I want to build up long-term. I’m basically planning out the rest of my adult life right now.
I never imagined that I would be sitting down with myself and saying, “Okay, your education is finally over. Time to do rather than think.”
My mind is a terrible thing to waste.
I renewed my World of Warcraft subscription in early January and played for 6 weeks. Why? I was burnt out on life and dead on the inside. I had nothing left to give. I could only do the bare minimum, retreating to a simple addicting world that could keep me from worrying about the nasty reality I found myself in. I thought that World of Warcraft would dull my mind just enough to get me through the rest of school.
My mind has gone to waste for too long. The book I’m writing right now is…simply enlightening. I can’t stop working on it. My mind is a terrible thing to waste.
Looking for encouragement!
I’ve been writing content for my new blog since I stopped producing new stuff for this blog in January.
I posted the following desires on the Steve Pavlina forum in response to his post about “Broadcasting Your Desires”:
- I want to live in a world where humans are no longer coopted as slave labor for giant multinational corporations. I want to see the “rat race” come to an end forever.
- I want to see more beauty in the world.
- I want to see the world enter into a more sustainable era. In other words, I want to see solar energy perfected, fuel cells perfected, and true AI + nanomanufacturing perfected.
- I want people to live more consciously and share in the truth. I want to see lying politicians booed and ousted for good.
- I desire to have someone cook and clean for me in exchange for money so I can devote more time to items 1-4.
- I desire financial abundance so I can help make items 1-5 real.
In my previous posts, I mentioned that the key to success is “conspiracy theory + personal development”, aka deprogramming + reprogramming. I’ve been viciously producing new content for these sites, as my desire to make a difference in the world grows.
I’m almost finished with my book about success. It’s like NOTHING out there, and it’s 100% free. When you read this book, you’re going to be blown away by it’s elegance, simplicity, and practical use.
Anyway, I’m re-broadcasting my desires in hopes that people who resonate with the idea of personal development will encourage me on this path! I desire to be encouraged!
A Rant For the Soul-Suckers Out There
One of the biggest realizations I’ve had recently is that I must refuse interacting with people who suck my power away. I can’t just give my power away anymore. I can’t let this mangled web of bad beliefs keep me in powerless situations. I give my power away to shitty bosses, to people who just don’t deserve it. I just give it away! And I suffer the consequences when I get sucked in and feel obligated to people who I don’t like. People who just take advantage of me. I just have to say, “No.” No to deals that don’t match my value, that don’t match my contribution. I have to be an asshole, and I have to listen to crybabies call me an ashhole. Then I ignore them. I have to ignore my brother begging me to come back and play World of Warcrack (such a soul-sucking game). I have to ignore my advisor’s inane requests to do busywork. I have to ignore employers wanting me to hand them gold, then they shit on it, then hand it back to me and watch me get angry because they have nothing better to do with their time than try to make themselves look better to themselves. I’m sick of that shit.
I’m sick of sitting by watching the world revolve around its stupidity and its political correctness. I’ve lived powerless in a world that is openly hostile to me and gives me nothing in return. The thought of being “selfish” and ultimately lonely has only fed my guilt and isolation. I’ve played the useful idiot for sooo long. And I’ve had to be extremely careful and cautious and “learn” my way out of this hole that I’ve lived my way into.
On the precipice of escape, on the precipice of living a balanced, fulfilling, powerful, wealthy, and joy-filled life, I reflect on all of the discarded thought patterns lying at my feet like soiled and tattered clothing that never fit. I reflect on the people who kept me ignorant, who used me, who saw me as nothing more than a means to their end.
To these people, I heave a hearty fuck-you. I hope you all feel a twinge of repulsion as my anti-prayer feeds back the mediocrity you tried to foist upon me. I hope you like the taste of the stale karma sandwich of powerlessness and weakness that you tried to make me eat.
Transitioning from slave to master.
26 years as slave.
0 days as the master.
This is going to be quite a journey. Here I go.
Long-Term Effects of Attending Steve Pavlina Conscious Growth Workshop
It’s been 4 months since the first CGW. It’s hard to believe that time is flying so fast, but it is.
Steve has developed in a rather drastic and public way since the workshop. But what about all of us peons at whom the workshop is targeted?
I’ve had a lot of internal/private shifts going on continuously, with lots of internal resolution of things that were bothering me in my life. How are these internal shifts manifesting externally?
1. I FINALLY quit graduate school today. It tore me up for the last four months. Graduate school has devastated my life for years, and I could never see the way out. I wasn’t able to quit without the knowledge I gained from the CGW. I’ve been resonating a lot with the Power/Courage lesson, moving one step forward each day toward gaining the skills necessary to do what is most meaningful to me in my career.
I cannot overstate how massive of a shift this is – the Jesse of September 2009 never could have pulled this off. The Jesse of October 2009 that started JesseLovesYou.com was working through things. But the Jesse of February 2010 is a completely reborn and different person. Going in and saying, “I’m done” and not having it turn into a disaster today was one of the highest points in my life so far, and it’s just the beginning of a new era in my life.
2. Self-Directed Conscious Growth. My awareness continues to expand. I am more aware of my health, my body, my emotions, other peoples’ emotions, other peoples’ thoughts. I am able to accomplish things with other people that I wasn’t able to previously. I am able to intuit the needs of other people without them saying a word – it’s almost like people are an open book to me now.
3. Synchronisities. I keep getting what I need from “the universe” to move forward with “my purpose.” I wanted to help people online the way Steve helps people from the moment I first read his blog one year ago. But I couldn’t see how it would ever work out for me. A few weeks ago, I got an article from “Early to Rise” that “stitched” everything together – the article was the boost I needed to shift into a different way of thinking about my life and my future.
I’ve been getting fortune cookies that synchronize 100% with my thought patterns. All fortune cookies have a positive spin, but the way they say it just synchs up perfectly with what I need in the moment I read them. Example: “Your future looks bright” came right after I read that article from ETR and had that major shift in how I was looking at my online career.
4. Personal Life. I haven’t been romping around and having orgies or anything (yet), but my relationships with other people have been steadily improving. I’ve had sex 2 times since the workshop, which is infinity times higher than the 0 from the year before the workshop. I went to a strip club in Vegas right after the workshop, and strippers were magnetically attracted to me – I couldn’t keep them off of me even though I wasn’t giving them any money.
I can see in other peoples’ eyes a new kind of respect for me – they see a conviction in me that they don’t see anywhere else, and I’m getting help from others where there would have been resistance before.
Again, I’m very careful and calculated when it comes to making major shifts in my life. I’ve been reluctant to create a relationship with another person, as I’ve historically been unable to even care for a pet. People always seemed like vampires, both emotional and financial, and I’ve figured out a way to deal with that problem. (The solution was to look inside to beliefs that were programmed in me at an early age).
5. Other Peoples’ Growth. When I hear stories about other peoples’ experiences from the workshop, I have this eerie feeling. It’s like we all just discovered fire for the first time, and nobody else knows about it. In other words, I believe that the people attending Steve’s workshops are the beginning of a new evolutionary phase in human history. I’ve seen what other personal development gurus have to offer, and Pavlina is leaps and bounds beyond anything out there. I was completely turned off by PD until I found Steve. He’s created a new paradigm for human existence. It’s the realization that we can all become empowered and share in a new experience of human reality, one free from most of the limitations imposed by an older model of human existence. (The archaic fear-based existence in which human beings are mostly subservient slaves working for monarchs and/or tyrants).
I am inspired by what I experienced at the workshop, and I hope something more than sex and style comes out of the CGWs ![]()
-Jesse